I don’t make promises, at least not to everyone. And if I do make one, that person definitely carries a lot of significance in my life. It was about a year back that I promised a very close friend of mine that I would renounce certain habits in life. I did bring in the requisite control in me to live up to the promise. The damned visit to the US saw the rebirth of the same habit that I promised to give up.
So far, this has been a well-kept secret from my friend. Yesterday, during a very casual conversation, when she asked me, “So, Somu… Do you still have that habit?”… I was caught between the devil and the deep sea. I had two options at my disposal. Lie about it and feel guilty or be honest and win the wrath of a good friend. And I did what I felt was the right thing to do. Be honest.
Now, I have a question for myself. Does being honest nullify the effect of breaking a promise? After all, there is no proverbial reference to breaking promises being the worst of policies. Am I absolved from the sin I committed by being honest?
Only one can answer that question.
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That's why I don't make promises :-)
ReplyDeleteI believe being honest with a friend is better than lying to him/her.
ReplyDelete[Now, I have a question for myself. "] ... u posed a question for urself... so not expecting answers from others right??... j/k...
ReplyDeleteas krish said, "make no promises" and be honest :-)
this concers with dhumm i presume, adu adikarai nu eppidiyum terinjudum, so why lie bout it?
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ReplyDeletethere could be two reasons which prompt one to be honest-you and your external world.you have a soul to answer to.if being honest makes you feel better be that.but if honesty were to break a r'ship or worse still degrade you before the concerned person(s)i would say not to reveal the truth.this action would at the least afford you another oppurtunity to stand on what you want to.but if you neatly tuck it away and continue with the path of the broken promise its just too rotten a behaviour
ReplyDeletenothing is perfect.being honest doesnt ALWAYS help..my sincere opinion
nooooooooooooooo.... honesty doesn't nullify having broken ur promise..
ReplyDeleteU better quit.....
Would'nt u say that honesty and a promise are two different things?If u broke a promise n said u did. You only broke a promise...but if u lied saying that u did not...then that would be a lie and a broken promise.
ReplyDeleteHow can being honest nullify the effect of breaking a promise?
exactly with Marc...yeah if u had broken a promise...its broken
ReplyDeleteand if U lie ...then one more sin added
u have just escaped from one sin...by being honest...
but u can always tell her that u will try to keep up the promise in future..and live by it...to prove it...
wat say man??
Being honest is definitely not an excuse to get away from the sin of not keeping a promise. Sorry if that sounded a little harsh buddy.
ReplyDeleteHonesty is the basic minimum. Promises are one step after.
u telling the truth or lying was in no way going to undo the broken promise... so given the options, u did the right thing i'd say... now go and keep up that promise here after, dont make breaking promises a habit..;-)
ReplyDeleteWell... certain things are easier said than done...
ReplyDeleteBut if u want to keep a promise...keep the promise honestly :)
get well soon...and come back to reply somu...
ReplyDeleteI Apologize for two reasons :
ReplyDelete1. For responding so late. If you have read my latest post, am sure you would brush off the apology as being unwarranted.
2. For not going to respond to individual comments (just this time). While we may apply reason, and logic to argue what is right or wrong, ultimately it depends on the situation and the promisee concerned. In that sense our opinions could only be subjective and I sure do appreciate your comments. The purpose of this post was to figure out straight from the horse's mouth where I stood. As I said, only one can answer me. And I guess I have found my answer in your comments. Thanks :o)
I promise never to write a comment marking my presence in your blog with my "unique" brand of commenting!
ReplyDelete(There, I have broken my promise already, but it feels good.)
:-)
Ah Ah! Remember you promised me something also, in about 2-3 years?? The way I see it, you are the temporary 'custodian' of that said thing, while I'm the final owner! ;)
ReplyDeletebreaking promises do happen many times.. accepting that would be a solution, after breaking them. eventhough it has its implications based on the person who insisted on it, I won't classify that as a sin.
ReplyDeletehope you have been absolved by now.. after this post.